The Nature That God Would Produce In A Counselor



For now I want to lay out some of God’s preparation of the Counselor.

Job 29:21 Unto me men gave ear, and waited, and kept silence at my counsel.

This passage is not Job boasting, but, stating the facts of his former experience with God. If we were to carefully study this passage, we would find some of the things that God led Job through, in order to bring him into such a place. Here are some of the things that are evident in this passage that are manifestations of why he had people
coming to him for counsel

1. Character traits are shown concerning Job in this chapter. *
2. Fruit of the Spirit are evident. *
3. That Job had experiences with God is clear.
4. That he had achieved a measure of pure religion that was undefiled is manifest in that He visited the fatherless and the widow in their affliction.

Yet, in order to move into another dimension of experiencing God, it was essential that God strip him. One of things this evidences is that you do not have to have everything in place to be a counselor. You can counsel, others in the areas that you have been dealt with by God, if God has called and anointed you as a counselor. Let me illustrate for you from the life of David.

By the time David finished his training in the wilderness there were at least 600 men that had joined him and come under his leadership. All of those men had been through much, and some of them had been with him from the days of Adullam’s cave. This means that they had observed him over at least 11or 12 years. It is possible some had been with him almost the full 13 years. Yet, David only had three named counselors.

Because Jonathan, David’s uncle was related, it is possible that he had been with David from the Cave of Adullam. If this was so, why was it that only he was a counselor and not some of the others. Is it possible that he gave himself to the dealings of God to learn the ways of God, while others just did as they were told? David himself is said to be a counselor.

2 Samuel 14:17 Then thine handmaid said, The word of my lord the king shall now be comfortable: for as an angel of God, so is my lord the king to discern good and bad: therefore the LORD thy God will be with thee.

Please notice the reputation of David. When he spoke it was from a heart that discerned good and bad. This too is something God wants to give the counselor, a discerning heart..

Before we deal with the anointing for counsel I would like to refresh our memory concerning the basic nature God wants in a counselor.

I want to go back to Gen. 33:13-14

Genesis 33:13-14 And he said unto him, My lord knoweth that the children are tender, and the flocks and herds with young are with me: and if men should overdrive them one day, all the flock will die. 14 Let my lord, I pray thee, pass over before his servant: and I will lead on softly, according as the cattle that goeth before me and the children be able to endure, until I come unto my lord unto Seir.

In this passage we have a basic attitude that God wants to work in all ministry. Jacob had just wrestled with God and had his nature changed. We know that his nature has been changed, not just because God touched his thigh, but because of the comparison we could make of his attitude before and after. Before, when he was working for Laban, he did all that he could to leave behind the weak sheep and keep the strong. After his experiencing of God, and the name change, then he manifests a level of care that does not seem evident before. Let us look carefully at this, looking for attitudes that will help us in the ministry of counsel. We need to see ways in which we can ask God to change us so that we can counsel effectively, without having any abrasive attitude that would be wounding to those we counsel.

1. A counselor must be able to discern the growth level of the one being counseled. Are they:

a. Babes
b. Children
c. Young men
d. Fathers


2. A counselor needs know how far a day or a session to lead the one being counseled. Remember that if one should overdrive them they will die.

3. When it says, I will lead on softly, the word used for softly, means gently. A counselor must learn to be gentle. This is not just a soft voice, it is an attitude the can be emitted.

a. 2 Timothy 2:24-25 And the servant of the Lord must not strive; but be gentle unto all men, apt to teach, patient, 25 In meekness instructing those that oppose themselves; if God peradventure will give them repentance to the acknowledging of the truth;

1 Thessalonians 2:7 But we were gentle among you, even as a nurse cherisheth her children:

i. It does not say only preachers or pastors. Counselors are servants of God and so this applies to them.

(1) When it says that the servant of God must not strive, it is referring to arguing. That is in the word used for strive from the original. He cannot be one who has to be right or have to prove his point. He is not allowed to argue, strive or debate.

(a) Important to our understanding is the application that the meanings of the original word brings to our counseling.

(i) One of the meanings says, “of those who engage in a war of words, to quarrel, wrangle, dispute”. 
(ii) of those who contend at law for property and privileges.

(b) Another translation of the first portion of that scripture then would be, the one who serves God should not  quarrel, dispute or argue, or engage in a war of words, he should not contend for his privileges, rights or position,  using the letter of the law to sustain his argument.

(2) Here the man of God is told to be gentle to all men, not just Christians. There are two words used in the following passages for gentle.

(a) 1 Thessalonians 2:7 But we were gentle among you, even as a nurse cherisheth her children:
2 Timothy 2:24 And the servant of the Lord must not strive; but be gentle unto all men, apt to teach, patient

(i) In these passages gentle is translated from the word that means affable, mild, gentle.

(b) Titus 3:2 To speak evil of no man, to be no brawlers, but gentle, shewing all meekness unto all men.

James 3:17 But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, and easy to be intreated, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality, and without hypocrisy.

(i) Here the word used for gentle is translated from the Greek word that means seemingly, suitable, equitable, fair, mild, gentle.


 (3) What is scripture’s comment on the condition of gentleness.

(a) 2 Samuel 22:36 Thou hast also given me the shield of thy salvation: and thy gentleness hath made me great.

(i) Here the condition of gentleness is translated in a number of ways throughout the Old Testament. Most of them have to do with humility, and the humbling of oneself. We will apply this and other meanings to the ministry of counseling at the end of this extremely important portion of gentleness.

(b) Psalm 18:35 Thou hast also given me the shield of thy salvation: and thy right hand hath holden me up, and thy gentleness hath made me great.

(i) The condition of gentleness here includes meekness, humility, condescension.
(ii) At this point our example for meekness is Moses, of whom it was said, he was the meekest man in all the earth. He was not defensive nor did he insist on his position of authority. He allowed God to be his defense.

(c) 2 Corinthians 10:1 Now I Paul myself beseech you by the meekness and gentleness of Christ, who in presence am base among you, but being absent am bold toward you.

(i) The word used here for gentleness means: clemency, mildness, gentleness, fairness.

(d) Galatians 5:22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith,

(i) The Greek word here means, goodness, kindness, gentleness, integrity, benignity.

b. Before we sum up the teaching on gentleness and what it means, we need to define biblical humility. This is taken from John 13:3

i. John 13:3 Jesus knowing that the Father had given all things into his hands, and that he was come from God, and went to God;

(1) True humility is.

(a) knowing what is yours, knowing that the Father had given all things into his hands
(b) knowing where you come from or who you are sourced in for your motivations. that he was come from God
(c) knowing where you are going in God or your spiritual destination. Knowing that He went to God.
(d) knowing your maturity level along the journey
(e) Not walking above it and not walking below it.
(f) being unthreatened and secure in that position so that you are able to serve God’s people of any level without being threatened.

c. In summing up the teaching on gentleness let me make the following translation of the composite of what gentleness means. If we were using biblical lives to illustrate this attitude, we would use David. The attitude and characteristic of Gentleness is:

One who does not argue, quarrel or engage in a war of words with anyone. He is one who is mild, approachable equitable or balanced, with meekness and humility and one who shows mercy or clemency in kindness, having
integrity.